When choosing a life partner what common mistakes people do?

Aswin Raj N
3 min readSep 7, 2020

Failing to realize what is ‘life partner’ means

It means the relationship doesn't fail because of a bad experience maybe its because of never understanding what exactly who they are. the best way for realizing your partner is to understand and learn your partners love language, and start speak to each other

Considering the past rather than what’s to come

Having a daily existence accomplice implies you ought to consistently take a gander at now and tomorrow. Having an incredible past together isn’t adequate, it’s tied in with seeing a future together.

The day after our first date my better half (to be) and I were having a profound discussion with the point: what do we need, what do we expect, imagine a scenario where this doesn’t work out, what do we do at that point. We generally focused on tomorrow.

Having inconsistent methods of critical thinking

Regularly individuals at the beginning of a relationship overlook that inconvenience will come one day. Weeks or years after the fact they end up battling with the way different needs to take care of issues. At the point when serious trouble becomes unavoidable, it can mean the destruction of both.

Being viable in tackling issues doesn’t mean concurring on execution, it implies trying to comprehend what is the issue and why a specific arrangement is proposed.

Having inconsistent qualities

Firmly identified with critical thinking are values, the hidden reasons why we get things done, or forgo them. For some these qualities start in religion, for other people, they originate from a certain perspective. In any event, when not sharing a religion, having comparative life esteems can hold individuals together.

Not seeing that it’s conditions that change, not individuals

I once told somebody: given the correct conditions any individual will cheat, however not all individuals permit these conditions to rise or to endure. You can’t change your life accomplice (despite the fact that he/she can do this somewhat) yet you can change conditions. However this impact additionally has it’s the breaking point, certain life occasions occur and make challenges. Now look forward, realize you have similar qualities and consent to tackle the issue one way or the other.

I have focussed on parts of the relationship, yet I like to specify one critical misstep not all individuals figure it out:

Not understanding you are your own life accomplice too

There will be one single individual in your life who’s with you your whole life: you.

All thriving and all hopelessness will be experienced by you and no one else. On the off chance that you are not content with yourself, you may fall in the snare of looking for another to make up for the shortfall. Furthermore, it will cause much more wretchedness. At the point when you are content with yourself, or better: content, you will find that you can be a wellspring of satisfaction to others also.

You ought to build up each attribute you anticipate from a day to day existence accomplice also. You should know yourself, your point of view, your qualities, where you are going.

At the point when you know yourself, one day you discover somebody who’s going a similar way with generally a similar speed. You two change only a little and choose to follow along for the since quite a while ago run.

It’s just when you share a similar fate and a similar way that you can follow alongside one another as life accomplices in this excursion called life. Also, there will be a lot of individuals strolling along for a short time too.

You meet as outsiders, some will leave you as outsiders, others as friends and few won’t leave till the end.

That is the thing that you are focusing on, somebody who’s with you for an amazing remainder. It’s a long excursion with numerous deterrents and delightful sights. Furthermore, dusk toward the end.

At the point when you are not content with the excursion ahead you are not prepared for a day to day existence accomplice. At the point when you are content you will one day meet an individual heading for a similar spot by a similar street. Continue pushing ahead, alone, or together.

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Aswin Raj N

I am an entrepreneur, article & story writer who always excited to explore new world of words for my stories